Do I need a rec pacekt?
Sorority recruitment preperation can be a stressful time, particularly due to the various tasks that need to be done before the excitement of recruitment week begins. One essential task is requesting recommendation letters from sorority alumnae to introduce you to each sorority on campus. This process may feel overwhelming and confusing if you're unsure about what to include and how to proceed.
At first, it's important to note that recommendation letters are not mandatory for joining a sorority. Consider them as optional, like extra credit, which can be beneficial prior to recruitment. Many sororities have shifted away from requiring references to ensure all interested PNMs (Potential New Members, that’s you) have an equal opportunity, regardless of their connections. As you begin seeking sorority contacts, you may be surprised to discover how many people you already know or can reach out to for assistance. Treat this process like extra credit – it's nice to have and worth trying. Secondly, it's worth mentioning that reference letters are more common for southern schools, providing sorority members with insights about you before the recruitment process begins.
Let's discuss how to find recommendation writers and what to provide them once they agree! Start by listing all the sororities on your college campus (not all 26 National Panhellenic Conference organizations may be present on your campus). It's crucial to get an introduction to as many chapters as possible. A common misconception is thinking, "Do I only need a reference for the sororities I like?" Actually, it's advisable to offer at least one reference introduction to each sorority, or as many as you can find a writer for. Even if it's just four, you'll have connected with four chapters on your campus – better than none! Remember, the recommendation is usually an online form completed by a graduated or current sorority member (different than your campus) on your behalf. Some writers may also want to send a letter directly to the sorority, which is fine if the chapter accepts it. Some sororities prefer submissions through their online form for tracking purposes. As a Potential New Member (PNM), you don't need to stress about this process; your reference writer should know what the national organization prefers. To find writers, consider your personal network, such as friends, family, organizations you're part of, activities you engage in, neighbors, community contacts, your parents' connections, collegiate sorority members you know, and your friends' moms. If you exhaust these options, turn to social media, local alumnae Panhellenics, or the sorority national website for assistance. While it's best if the reference comes from someone who knows you personally, if not, try to meet with the person providing it, share your sorority intentions, and answer any questions they may have about you.
Once a recommendation writer agrees to help, you should prepare a "rec packet" for them to assist in crafting the introduction on your behalf. This packet should include a comprehensive social resume, a headshot of yourself, and any additional details that could aid in writing a positive recommendation. You can send this digitally via email to the writer. Make sure to request their mailing address so you can also send a handwritten thank-you note for their effort in completing the recommendation. I suggest to provide this information in early Spring to allow ample time for your writer to submit the recommendation (some sororities may have a deadline for when the recommendation must be received).
Let's dive into the perks and importance of introductions before you do all the work. Here's a sneak peek as to why they matter:
An introduction to a sorority allows your name to circulate within the chapter before recruitment begins, giving you a head start even before College Panhellenic registration opens.
Introductions offer the sorority a chance to get to know you beyond what they see on social media, as they usually check your social media profiles beforehand.
Recommendations no longer guarantee an invite to the next recruitment round, so focus on introductions to provide unique insights about yourself for better matching within the chapter.
Requesting recommendations also lets you connect with sorority members in your area, gaining valuable insights into Greek Life and personal experiences to aid you in your sorority journey.
Alumnae and current sorority members are willing to assist with your questions and provide guidance as you consider joining a sorority, a choice that will be the best decision you make!
Finally, strive to secure a recommendation, but if you don't, it's alright! This exercise is valuable in preparing you for your sorority experience. I trust you will gain insight into the process and your reasons for joining a sorority. Best of luck! I am here cheering you on and rooting for your journey friend!